My Opinions

First I want to say that these are my opinions on various topics and they are just that opinions. Everyone is allowed to have them whether you agree with someone or not that doesn't give you the right to be mean and nasty to someone with differing opinions. 

I want to share my opinions on some things that have been happening lately. Just so y'all know I am a white female and I see many comments on different articles from other white people thinking that they know what POC's go through concerning their race and we don't know. We have always been the majority and there has been white privilege for so very long. POC's have always been treated differently so for us we have no idea what it's like and we have no right to say that we do. That being said, the riots lately in Ferguson, Missouri and just tonight in Baltimore, Maryland are not the way to go. Destroying your communities because you are rightfully angry will not accomplish any positive forward movement. The police brutality is out of control and needs to be dealt with but there are many good cops out there as well. Positive, peaceful protests are the way to go. People are rightfully angry but they are going off their emotions rather than rational thinking and when people do that, they do things that they will regret. People need to stop letting their emotions control them. We need change throughout our whole country but violence and destruction is never the answer. It's really sad what has been happen and what will continue to happen until positive change can be brought forward. Also, yes we to see each other as we are, our defining characteristics, I am white, others are POC's, Asian, Hispanic but we shouldn't judge each other based on other colors of our skin, acknowledge it yes, judge solely on it, no. I judge people on their character, I give people the benefit of the doubt to be good people. Don't assume that because they are POC's that they are automatically thugs and bad because that is not true. Just like not all white people are bible thumping racists. I don't like stereotypes. Stereotypes lumps whole groups of people into one judgement and it irritates me. All southerns in the US are not bible thumping racists. Anyway, that's just my thoughts on that particular situation. There are good people everywhere and in all groups too! 

 So, this past Friday, Bruce Jenner had a 2 hour interview with Diane Sawyer about being a Transgender Female. I applaud him for standing up and speaking out about what it's like and how hard it is. I am a straight female so I can only imagine how hard it is for the LGBT community to deal with that everyday. People are so mean and judgemental today. God loves everyone no matter POC, White, Hispanic, Asian, Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Straight, or Transgender. People don't just choose to be a certain way, it's just how each one of us feels and who we are attracted it to. Just like us straight people are attracted to the opposite sex, Gays and Lesbians are attracted to people of the same sex. Love is Love no matter what and everyone deserves to be happy and to be able to express who they are and love who they want to love without being judged, hated, tormented and driven to suicide. When I have kids with my Fiance someday, I will be proud of them no matter what they choose to do or who they are and people using the bible to defend their ridiculous opinions just need to sit down and shut up. Don't use the Bible as a weapon that's not it was put on this earth to be used for. Religion can be good and bad. Some Religions can and do have cults in them and it's sad that people are brainwashed to believe certain things and that they have to be a certain way. I believe in God, I am Episcopalian, and I believe that God loves everyone and that we should at least learn to respect one another, we obviously don't have to accept everything but what people do in their lives that makes them happy like Bruce, then that is their business and it doesn't affect the rest of us in any way. My Idol, Lucy Hale actually posted a picture on her Instagram of her watching Bruce Jenner's interview and I just love her. She's so loving, accepting, caring, and sweet but so many people were so mean to Lucy on her Instagram and I broke down in tears it hurt me that people were calling her names and being mean. It was uncalled for. We need more people like Lucy in our world. Our world is so sad these days. I love you Lucy, I am such a proud Haler and always will be! I will love you to infinity and beyond!! You are my Idol, Inspiration and Role Model!! You make me smile everyday and I can't thank you enough for being so sweet and for your music that has helped me get through tough times. I thank God for bringing you into my life!!! Anyway, that's what I have to say about that. 

On the matter of Feminism. I agree with it to a point. I am a female and I can't stand sexism. I can't stand that fact that we women are treated as sex objects and are constantly shown images on how we should look and if we don't look a certain way then we are ugly and unwanted and it's just not true. We are all beautiful! Yes it is true I am overweight but I am working on it. I am engaged to a wonderful man though! We women are so much more then just body images and sex objects. We are strong, beautiful, smart, and can achieve anything a man can! When I said I agreed with Feminism to a point I meant that it's a good idea and I support those for it that are for equality and not man bashing. Bashing or hating people never gets a point across. A lot of men are actually good, caring people it's just some that are misogynistic pigs. We women can help make the world a better place we just need more places and chances to show what we are made of and not be told that we can't just because we are female! For more about this check out my previous post about International Women's Day:  http://sumnersspot.blogspot.com/2015/03/happy-international-womens-day.html

So that about sums up my opinions on some modern issues. I am on the side of love, peace, and acceptance or at least dignity and respect for all. We all deserve that. We all deserve to be happy and loved no matter who or what we are. We need more love in this world and less hate. We need more positive role models like Lucy Hale in this world to guide us on the right path. Volunteer, smile at someone, just be nice to one another. Life's too short to be anything but happy! 

Remember these are just my opinions no offense intended for anyone!

~Peace and Love~ 

Watched the #ACMAwards50 Tonight!!!

So, I watched the 50th ACM Awards tonight and it was AMAZING!!! 

Martina McBride preformed "Independence Day" one of my all time favorite songs!!

Lady Antebellum preformed "Long Stretch Of Love"!!!!

The Amazing George Strait preformed "All My Exes Live In Texas"!!

So many amazing preformances it would take so long to list them all and how amazing they all were!!! But, I have to talk about Reba, Alan Jackson, and Brooks and Dunn and Garth Brooks!!! All Amazing and all got awards!!! It brought back so many memories as well. Growing up in the 90's watching CMT music videos with my Nana!!! Country Music is a huge part of my life and has been for as long as I can remember!!!

This ACM Awards got a Guiness World Record for Largest Award Show!!! Leave it to Country Music to outdo Everyone!!! Love it!!!

I did love how Taylor Swift's Mom, Andrea presented Taylor her award!!!!

I just loved the whole show!! I loved the memories it brought back for me!!!

I will say this though, I wish Lucy Hale could have been there!!! It would have made my whole night perfect had she been there!! I know she will be there someday and I know she will win ACMA's someday too! Mark my words, I am calling it now, Lucy Hale will win not just ACMA's but CMA's and hopefully Grammy's as well maybe even CMT Awards too! I will probably cry happy tears when I watch her win!!! Like I always say, Once a Haler, Always a Haler!!! I love you so much Lucy!!!

Anyway, tonight was amazing! I love all country music awards the most because I get the most excited for them. I know almost all the songs and artists and they bring back great memories for me!!! 

~Peace and Love~ 

Happy International Women's Day!!

Happy International Women's Day!!! Yes I know this is my first blog post this year on this blog, I just haven't thought of anything to talk about until now. Anyway, today March 8th is International Women's Day!!! This is a very important day for women all over the world. Today we celebrate women and all that we have accomplished and what we can and will accomplish. We celebrate our strength, compassion, love, and stance that we are people like everyone else and deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. 

Also, this day reminds me just how important positive role models are for everyone. I am so lucky and blessed to have amazing role models and idols in my life. 

Lucy Hale is amazing, sweet, so beautiful, strong, loving, compassionate, so very inspirational, and she means the world to me. She lifts people up everyday, makes them feel loved and not alone. She gives back in so many ways and encourages everyone else to do the same. She is a strong woman and a positive role model and idol for women and girls all over the world today! I am so blessed that I got to meet her and to call her one of my idols and role models! 

Her amazing song and my life anthem "Nervous Girls" spreads an amazing message that goes well with today that we women and girls are not alone in what we go through in life and that we really aren't that different from one another!

I love this song so much!!

I admire and love Lucy Hale so much and I always will!!!

Lucy is just one of the strong amazing women on my list that I admire. I also love and admire Alyssa Milano. Alyssa always stands up for what she believes in and is compassionate in every way. She believes in equality for all and that everyone should come together to make our world a better and safer place. 

This quote has always been one of my all time favorite quotes!!

There are so many other amazing women who are such positive role models and inspirations and I can't end my list without including the amazing Emma Watson! Emma has been a pioneer for global women's rights and equality. 

 

 Truly inspirational!! 

There are many more on my list but I don't want to go on and on because this blog post would never end if I did. So, I will just add a couple more names of people I admire: Taylor Swift, Julianne Moore, Jennifer Aniston, Stana Katic, Sasha Alexander, Shania Twain, Carrie Underwood, Susan B Anthony, Michelle Obama, My Best Friends Sarah, Ellen, Jen and Asu, and these amazing YouTube vloggers that I watch everyday the ladies of the Madrosed family! I could go on and on as you can see but I will stop now. 

We need positive role models everyday. We need people who are not afraid to stand up for equality so the world will know that women are human beings too we are not objects and we don't owe anyone anything. We should be proud and strong and know our worth! To all my fellow women and girls don't let anyone tell you what you can and can't do, you can do anything you put your minds to. You are beautiful and you are not alone!

More quotes that I love: 

 Happy International Women's Day to all!!!!! 

~Peace and Love~ 

My Final Thoughts on 2014

2014 has been a year filled with happiness and love but also sadness and pain. Ups and Downs and everything in between. Here are my final thoughts on 2014 and my New Years Resolutions for 2015! 

I guess I will start with the good things about 2014. My birthday in 2014 was the BEST birthday I have ever had! I have talked about this enough times I know but since this is my 2014 year in review I have to talk about it again. 

January 28, 2014! 3 days before my 26th birthday was the best day of my life so far! That is the day that I met my idol, someone who means the absolute world to me, Lucy Hale! Lucy is just amazing and the sweetest person on the planet. That day meant everything to me. After being down for so long, that day and Lucy lifted me back up, gave me hope and made me believe in my dreams and that dreams really do come true. I so hope I get to see her again! I love you more than you will ever know, Lucy! Also, I want to say to everyone hating on Lucy for any reason what so ever lately it is because she cut her hair short, shame on y'all. Just because you don't like someone or what they do or how they do things doesn't mean you can bully them and be disrespectful. Lucy is not just a celeb, she is a human being with feelings and heart just like the rest of us and it makes me sad and mad to read hateful things towards her. Lucy is beautiful no matter what she does and I love her hair it is beautiful on her! Hope y'all like the poem I wrote about Lucy as well. This is the first time and place that I have posted it.

As with any year, there a good times and bad times. A week after I met Lucy, My Grandma passed away from pneumonia. My Grandma was one of my favorite people in the world. She was one the strongest people I knew. I was really sad after that of course. In May, we took Grandma back to Michigan to bury her ashes right next to Pa in the plot she had purchased many years ago. I will always miss and love you Grandma! 

When I didn't think things could get much worse, on July 4, 2014 my Nana passed away. I just couldn't believe it. I sat there shaking uncontrollably. I had seen Nana just a month before and she was fine. I couldn't believe this happened again. My Nana gave me the love of Country Music! The BEST genre of music there is I don't care what anyone says. I will always love and miss you Nana! 

 Things were getting better or so I thought until October 2014 when I found out a long time family friend Joanne had passed away from Lung Cancer the same cancer that took my Grandaddy when I was 14. Joanne always made me laugh and she had the longest hair but she smoked for as long as I knew her she smoked and because of that she had developed lung cancer. She had done all the treatments but even after she finished that there were still spots left on her lungs and her dr said her body couldn't handle anymore treatment so this past October, she passed away. I will always remember the fun times we had, Joanne! 

So, I didn't go home to Virginia for Thanksgiving for the first time in a long time. I stayed in Florida. That was different for me as was this Christmas. No Christmas tree, hardly any decorations, and it just did not feel like Christmas to me. I did go to Richmond though and I did get to see Sarah like usual so that was good. Seeing Lucy's Disney Celebration performance on Christmas Day made things a little easier to handle as well, and here we are now December 31, 2014. The final day of the year and I am glad that a new year is starting. 

2014 has been a year of unrest, violence, pain and little hopes for humanity thrown in in between the madness. The race issue continues to boil here in the US and it was never really dead to begin with. All the rioting and looting and violence it's just sad that in this day and age we can't all get along and learn to except each other for our differences. We all have the same organs and features but because we all look different, people think that is an invitation to hurt one another and it is ridiculous. Our obsession with material items is getting out of control too. There are more important things in the world than the newest electronic or shoes or something. People going nuts just to get one or a pair and stealing and beating people up it is seriously messed up. If you don't have the money to buy something then you can't get it plain and simple. 

Love is the most important thing we all need. Whether it is family, friends, boyfriend, girlfriend, whatever. We all need love. I am lucky enough to have found my true love and soul mate, Rob. He has been the biggest blessing in my life, even if some people don't believe it, it is true. He understands me, loves me unconditionally, makes me feel loved and safe and happy and makes me feel like I am not alone. We complete each others sentences and laugh about stupid things. We love a lot of the same people and things. It is like a match made in Heaven and I thank God for him everyday! I love you so much Rob and I always will. You are the other half of my heart! 

So for 2015, I hope that we can change our world for the better. Find solutions to our problems by talking with each other not by battling each other, that is unlikely to happen but a girl can wish right, We need more love and compassion in this world, we need more positive role models and education. 

My New Year's Resolutions for 2015: 

Lose weight! I really need to lose weight badly. I don't eat a lot but I am still overweight for my short height. 

Figure out something to do with my life. It's very hard for me to figure something out. I love multiple things and it still my dream to be a published Author and I am going to work very hard to make that happen. Writing is my passion. I love photography, weather, animals, and working on the computer as well. I will hopefully be volunteering at my animal shelter when I get back to Florida, I am hoping that will lead into something for me. I would love to work or volunteer at a cat rescue if possible, I wish I could find one. 

Continue to be myself and not care what anyone says. I have always had a problem with that. I always take what people say about to heart whether good or bad and I need to stop that and I will. Nobody is going to change who I am or anything. 

Hopefully get closer to getting married and being with my love forever. I can't wait until that can happen but we need a lot of things to happen first. 

Lastly, continue to love and support Lucy Hale, Alyssa Milano, and watch Pretty Little Liars! The main people and the show that makes me the happiest and I will always love and support them! 

Happy New Year Y'all! May 2015 bring you everything you hope for! 

~Peace and Love~ 

















 

I Hate Cancer!

This past Sunday a close family friend Joanne passed away from Lung Cancer the same cancer that took my Granddaddy when I was 14. Joanne did smoke for as long as I knew her but it is still an awful way to go. I was in shock when I found out she passed. I knew it was coming even though the hospital had just released her a few weeks ago for doing so well. 

Joanne and I always made each other laugh. Our birthdays were 6 days apart. Her's was January 25th and mine is January 31st. My mom and Joanne worked together for a long time. She was just a great person to be around so fun and made you laugh when you needed it. 

Cancer is terrible it ruins peoples lives and takes the ones we love but it also causes us to come together to help raise funds and awareness to help make it so this doesn't happen to anyone else. 

I wish Joanne had quit smoking. Maybe she would still be here if she had, but that is a hard habit to kick. I remember when I first found that she had Lung Cancer. She had already gone through Chemo but there were still spots left and her doctor said her body couldn't handle anymore treatment. I couldn't believe it. I had already lost my Grandma and Nana this year and now this. This year has been the best and worst year so far. If it wasn't for my idol Lucy Hale and her music I would have fallen completely apart by now. Lucy keeps me going, she keeps me strong, and she keeps my hope alive that things will get better. I love you so much Lucy!!! 

No matter how hard it is, you can't give up, you can't let it get to you, you have to stay strong and try to be happy and know that one day you will see your loved ones again. I will always remember the good times Joanne and I shared and the laughs. I always remember how much she loved Guinness Beer and how she used to go wild turkey hunting.  RIP Joanne!

Joanne and I at a BBQ when I was 12 years old

 My Mom and Joanne at our other friend Susan's 40th bday party

 Mom, Joanne, and Joanne's husband Tom at The Celtic Festival in Richmond,VA

 Joanne, Susan and our other friend Kim at my High School Graduation party!! 

Just a few pics to remember the good times! 

 Lung Cancer Awareness Month is next Month November!!! 

~Peace and Love~ 

Just a little something special I made for Lucy Hale!! #LucyHale

This is just a little something special I decided to make. Just something I felt I needed to do. Hope ya'll like it!!

~Peace and Love~ 

My thoughts on the tragic passing of Robin Williams and more.

As everyone knows or should know by now, a couple days before the world lost an incredible man and genius Robin Williams. This came as a shock to me and so many others as he was a huge part of my childhood. I grew up in the 90s and was surrounded with Disney. I was a huge fan of Aladdin and Robin Williams as the Genie was and is one of my favorite Disney characters of all time. He made me laugh so much. I had Aladdin on VHS growing up as well as many other Aladdin items: 

 These are just some of the things that I had growing up as you can see I still have the Genie in the first picture. It wasn't just Aladdin that I loved Robin Williams in there was Mrs. Doubtfire and Jumanji. Robin Williams just had a special way of making you laugh and feel better when things were down. It's like a part of my childhood passed when he did. 

One of my favorite lines and scenes ever from Mrs. Doubtfire. It wasn't just movies, I was and still am a HUGE Friends fan and I remembered that Robin Williams along with Billy Crystal had one of the best cameos in Friends Ever!! It was in season 3 and I will never ever forget it. I laugh every time I see it: 

Check it out for yourself I guarantee you will not watch the whole thing without cracking up a lot!!! 

And now for one of the BEST tribute videos I have ever seen! It is only a minute long but well worth the minute to watch: 

 This was such a beautiful tribute and I guarantee you will tear up. There will never be anyone else like Robin Williams. He was just a true comedic genius in every sense of the word. It is hard enough when someone passes but it is even harder when someone takes their own life because of depression and then to have people judge and saying what is so bad that someone takes their own life and crap like that and it is wrong for anyone to judge someone like that. They felt they were doing the right thing. I have seen it myself when I was growing up I saw alcoholism and drug addiction and having my dad tell me that he wants to die but doesn't remember the next day because he was drunk. He used to be on Zoloft and stuff and what is worse is when it is mixed with alcohol. It is scary to watch and to feel helpless and alone and that is how I felt lots of times. It is better now though my dad doesn't drink anymore but it brings me to my next topic a quote I had just recently been made aware of: 

 "Never hate on someone's idol, it could be the only reason they're alive". This is now my favorite quote ever. I was raised an only child so I was alone a lot and the only thing I had was TV and music. They made me feel less alone and sometimes that is what you need. My idols are Lucy Hale and Alyssa Milano. Lucy is the one in picture with the quote and she means the world to me as does Alyssa. Lately, Lucy's music has helped me through some hard times. Her music has literally helped me from falling completely apart. I listen to her songs and her beautiful voice and I feel less alone and comforted. So yeah nobody should hate on anyones idols for some they are all they have in life. Meeting Lucy Hale back in January was the best day of my life so far other than meeting my soul mate Rob of course but you get what I am saying. Lucy is just everything to me. Lucy Hale and her music help me hold one when things get tough and that is all!! 

So it was heavy hearts that we had to say goodbye to Robin Williams but we will never ever forget him or his way of making us all laugh! RIP Robin Williams you will be terribly missed by all across many generations! 

~Peace and Love~